Yeah … IMO it was also his ability to deceive and project what she and her parents wanted to see – so that he could secure ‘Miss Brisbane’ as his own ‘trophy’. Hypothetically she brought her internalised ‘map’ of significant male relationships to the mix, and he brought his internalised ‘map’ of significant female relationships to the mix… and therein lies the complexities and conflicts within the relationship mix. After a while, trophies get put on the shelf. There seems to have been a significant mis-match which resisted ‘adjustment’ and emphasised the ‘differences’ over time. What were goals for one became ‘anti-goals’ for the other, etc.Divorce can be a healthy solution in such a scenario which allows growth. All in my opinion only.
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